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The Best Tips for Coping with Divorce or Separation

Are you dealing with divorce stress? Has the recent separation been emotionally draining? 

Life after divorce (or separation) can be challenging. Prepare for the highs and lows as you’d do for any life-altering event. For the most part, you do have the key to bring your life on track.

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It all depends on what you do and don’t during the transitional period. We recommend prioritizing self-care, physical health, and social activities during this phase. These things give you the courage to keep moving forward without regrets.

Here are our rules for coping with divorce (and uncoupling): 

It all depends on what you do and don’t during the transitional period. We recommend prioritizing self-care, physical health, and social activities during this phase. These things give you the courage to keep moving forward without regrets.

Here are our rules for coping with divorce (and uncoupling): 

Rule # 1 Learn to Let Go Through Self-Care 

Getting over a relationship can lead to meltdowns, anxiety, and chronic stress. There will be times when you delve into ‘what ifs’ and ‘maybes’. You might even find faults within yourself because of the separation. Nurturing these beliefs and doubts can lead to self-loathing and an empty void. 

We do not undermine the advantages of quality me-time. It’s therapeutic and reflective for many people.

It’s natural to feel this way, but you must direct your attention towards the positives. Find ways to improve your mood and regain lost confidence. 

Practice self-care through: 

  • Meditation and relaxing exercise for dealing with divorce stress
  • Develop new hobbies like gardening, crocheting, and painting  
  • Eat a balanced diet to maintain your health 
  • Develop personal development goals  

Overall, self-care makes it easier to embrace new experiences and pursue happiness. 

Rule # 2: Don’t Isolate Yourself  

Many people avoid social gatherings to deal with their inner conflicts.  We do not undermine the advantages of quality me-time. It’s therapeutic and reflective for many people. Yet, excessive social distancing has some negative strings attached to it.

A group of friends having lunch

Prolonged isolation might trigger intrusive thoughts. You might acquire a taste for mind-numbing habits to escape reality. Know that drowning your sorrows in alcohol and drugs activates a vicious cycle of addiction. In turn, this forces you to lead a reckless life, often turning your back on people that genuinely care for you. 

Rule # 3: Build a Healthy Support System

Connect with friends and family by planning social activities (like game nights, outings, and one-dish parties).  Your immediate social circle can become a source of comfort. Don’t hesitate to ask for help or plan impromptu meet-ups when you’re feeling low.  

…set realistic expectations of what life after separation will look like and what you can do.

Long partnerships can often lead to overlapping social circles. If you feel uncomfortable with these acquaintances, start branching out to meet new people. You can do this through support groups, community programs, therapy, and recreational activities. 

The Big Question: How Long Does It Take to Get Over a Divorce? 

These questions might pop up after a few months. Or, you may ponder over them as you decide whether or not you can withstand the emotional strain of separation. Whatever the situation may be, you will need time to heal and recover from a partner’s loss. 

Despite what others may tell you, there are no hard and fast rules about the time limit. Coping with divorce (or separation) can look and feel different for everyone. That’s why you must stop comparing notes and take things at your pace. Otherwise, you risk rushing into the bad habits and relationships. 

Is there a magic potion to heal faster?

Nope. 

However, there are ways to utilize this transitional phase wisely and practically. 

We already taught you a fair share of practical tips for dealing with divorce stress. Choose the ones that fit your lifestyle and alter your routines accordingly. Also, remember that there are no overnight remedies to cure heartaches after separation. You have to take things to step by step before you learn to move on completely.

The Next Step 

In the end, set realistic expectations of what life after separation will look like and what you can do. Remember that your emotional scars will take time to heal.  Acknowledging this can prove beneficial for you. Acceptance makes it easier to develop healthier coping mechanisms post-separation.  Learn how to take things slowly and invest in self-care. 

If you struggle with your emotional or mental health, consult a therapist. Or, talk to friends and family who can support you during these testing times. 

We wish you all the best as you embark on this new journey. May it be fulfilling, enlightening, and happier than what you left behind.  

Want to know more? Read our article on Five Emotional Stages of Divorce (or Separation) to understand why you feel a certain way. 

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Splitsvil is designed to engage with divorcees, newly separated, or recently uncoupled individuals who need an unbiased, non-legal perspective on how to cope with their unfortunate situation and ultimately thrive! Our mission is to support women and men going through the emotional stages of separation, provide easy-to-read, quick tips and techniques via education content, offer a community for networking with others in similar domestic situations and ultimately provide a gift registry where family and friends can help individuals get back on their feet.

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