Robin & HeatherIt’s a common behavior for many singles to use dating to fix ALL life problems.
If you think you are ready to date and find a meaningful relationship out there, you can hop on the dating bandwagon and start looking for Mr. or Ms. Right. But if you are not ready, then how do you know if you should pursue a new relationship or not?
Some singles assume they are ready to pursue relationships because that’s what people in their age/demographic group is doing. This prevents them from standing out from the crowd, thus following society’s notion of finding “THE ONE.” In doing so, they ignore a few signs in their lives that prevent them from figuring out if they are ready to date or not!
Signs That You Aren’t Ready to Date
If you are interested in dating and feel that it’s time to find the right partner, then look for these six signs.
Sign 1: You Keep Canceling Your Dates
‘I just don’t want to meet them right now.’
‘I am too busy to date right now.’
‘I don’t like “this” person.’
If these statements sound familiar, you are probably canceling your dates using these excuses. And maybe they aren’t excuses to you, but your close friends may tell you they are just plain reasons you aren’t ready to date.
Canceling dating plans, over and over, is a basic sign that you are dealing with something more important in your life, and dating is not the answer.
…a stable connection and relationship built up over time is more realistic. Having a rom-com fantasy only leads to disappointment.
Sign 2: It Hasn’t Been Long Since Your Last Breakup
When you are looking for dating advice right after a breakup, you may go to your friends and family members to help you find a new partner. However, you need to make sure you’ve sorted out feelings from the previous relationship before you do that.
All those feelings need to be processed for you to learn what you want in a relationship and a partner. Maybe once you have resolved your internal feelings, you’ll be ready to meet a new person!
Sign 3: You Are Dating to Fix ALL Life Problems
It’s a common behavior for many singles to use dating to fix ALL life problems, so don’t feel embarrassed. People often seek out new relationships to avoid dealing with other life problems. They assume that if they are ready to date, it is equivalent to moving on!
However, dating is not a “fix-it-all” method to deal with problems. If you are not in the right mindset, you may have an unhealthy relationship to deal with on top of your other worries.
Sign 4: You Don’t Like Being Alone
When you come home after a long day at work, do you feel lonely or just solitude? And if you share your home with someone, does it still seem lonely?
If so, then you are lacking self-love, something you cannot get from dating! You may feel frantic to check dating apps and find someone to avoid the feeling of loneliness. But expert dating advice for singles is to evaluate your feelings about yourself first and figure out why you feel lonely before finding someone else to fill the void.
Sign 5: You Are Stuck in a Rom-Com Fantasy
If you are happy in your life with no unresolved issues, you may feel like dating is the next step. You’d be ready to date the next person you find online or a friend suggests to you. But the date does not go well because you expected a lot more than a casual talk!
It happens to many people as they expect an instant connection between themselves and their date, which is not always realistic. A stable connection and relationship built up over time is more realistic. Having a rom-com fantasy only leads to disappointment.
Sign 6: You Like Being Single!
This sign is ignored by many people, leading to unhealthy relationships! Being single for a long time can be frowned upon in our society and so people look for love as soon as they have opportunities.
But if you love being single, do not feel the pressure to date. You can have other things in life, such as a career or traveling, that you prioritize over dating. And it’s absolutely okay to feel that way!
Summary
If you notice these signs, you are probably not ready to date right now! Despite what everyone says or does around you, feel free to follow your heart and stay happy. You will find the right partner when you are ready.
However, if none of these signs appear in your life and you are sure about dating, then go ahead. But just watch for the signs!
