Dear CeCeDear CeCe,
I’ve been separated for about 5 months. We haven’t started the divorce process, not because we think we’re getting back together, but because we are waiting for our house to sell. I joined an adult volleyball rec league. It’s perfect because they play on the nights in which I don’t have my 5-year-old daughter. I’ve recently started having one on one time with one of the other participants. I’m developing romantic feelings and so is she. Is it to soon to introduce her to my daughter?
– Starting to Get Romantic Again
Dear Starting to Get Romantic Again
Good for you. You got right out there and started building a new life. I love that you are letting this relationship develop away from your daughter. Don’t move too fast. The first step is to get to know your new love interest well and be sure it’s someone you want to have in your life for a long time. Kids can get attached easily. When people/partners come and go, it erodes children’s trust in adults and their ability to bond later in life.
In regard to timelines, opinions vary on the length of time. Most experts suggest between 3 to 9 months. The good news is, this timeframe gives you more time to get know this new person, and time to take permanent steps to dissolve your old relationship.
Good luck. Enjoy the romance and take your time!
CeCe
Robin & Heather
