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Healing Music (Part 2) –Songs to Help You Move on From Your Ex

When negative emotions are swirling around, the most helpful action maybe to find a safe place to voice them.

Healing Music (Part 1) – Songs to Brighten Your Mood focused on a list of upbeat songs that can help individuals to change their mood and find a happier space. Separation, uncoupling can bring up multiple emotions. It can open the door to feeling rejected, or other negative feelings from past experiences or traumas. The person who asked for the separation, may feel guilty. On the other hand, the person that was broken up with may feel unwanted, powerless of victimized. No one leaves a relationship without a multitude of feelings, often negative, or disempowering.

Just as we discussed in part one, music is known to strongly influence our emotions. When negative emotions are swirling around, the most helpful action maybe to find a safe place to voice them. Blast them out loud and clear, and in the process reclaim your power and your ability to move on. Below is a list of songs that can help you let off steam! Each title is linked to the song/video on You Tube.

So What (Pink)

My favorite part might be the very bratty sounding “Na Na Na Na, Na Na, Na Na Na Na Na, Na!” Then those biting words – “So What! I’m Still a Rockstar!” One of my best memories is cruising down the freeway with a good friend, convertible top down, singing along with this at the top of our lungs! It releases tons energy in a fun way!!

…being fierce and safely letting that hurt and angry little kid that exists in all of us out for a little while.

I’m Still Standing (Elton John)

Talk about claiming your own power. The chorus has that same little kid being angry quality. “I’m still standing. Yeah, Yeah, Yeah!”  Verse two is empowering to belt out as well. “You’re startin’ down the road, leavin’ me again.
The threats you made were meant to cut me down, and if our love was just a circus, you’d be a clown by now.”

Firework (Katy Perry)

I love this song. She is clearly telling us to feel worth and own it. “Cause baby, you’re a firework, come on, show ’em what you’re worth, make ’em go, “Oh, oh, oh.” The energy and the emphasis on your own awesomeness is empowering.

Fireworks in the sky

I Hate Myself for Loving You (Joan Jett and the Blackhearts)

I’m not suggesting that you hate yourself. Instead use this anthem to state a pattern and then break it. Don’t hate yourself from loving someone. Step back and simply love yourself more.

It’s My Life (Bon Jovi)

This is a definite moving on song! It’s shrug it off and claim a new direction. “This ain’t a song for the broken-hearted. No silent prayer for the faith departed. I ain’t going to be just a face in the crowd. You’re going to hear my voice when I shout it out loud! It’s my life!”. The driving beat and the energy speaks to determination and  to claim what is ours! Have a great time with this song!

Stronger (Kelly Clarkson)

“What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.”  Another strong, moving beat about survival and getting through tough times. This a good song to get out the frustration and pain. Again, it’s a little bratty; “I dream in color, and I do the things I want!” It brings out the defiant kid in us. I like that! Kids are right up front with what they don’t like!

Woman flexing her muscles

Here are some added songs that can help you let it all out.

Over You (Daughtry)

Hero (Mariah Carey)

Survivor (Destiny’s Child)

I Look So Good Without You (Jessie James)

I’m Alright (Kenny Loggins)

Hold Your Head Up (Argent)

Piece of My Heart (Janice Joplin and the Holding Company)

You Give Love a Bad Name (Bon Jovi)

Better By Myself (Hey Violet)

Love Yourself  (Justin Beiber)

Don’t Speak (No Doubt)

Separate Ways (Journey)

Titanium (David Guetta)

Summary

This group of songs is very different then Part 1. This is not just trying to forget our hurt or anger, it’s about letting it out. Being fierce and safely letting that hurt and angry little kid that exists in all of us out for a little while. I hope that you have fun with this, add in dance moves and make a night of it with good friends.

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