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  • Dear CeCe – Is My Therapist Normal?
    Dear CeCe, I have been seeing a therapist to work at getting on with my life after splitting up with a longtime girlfriend. I’ve been seeing him for 5 months and don’t feel like I’m getting anywhere. I feel he talks more than I do. When I touched on some abuse in my early life – he told me that it sounded like I had dealt with it and didn’t need to go more in depth. Is this normal? He also seems to talk more than I do in our meetings, often relating stories about himself. – Is My Therapist […]
  • Dear CeCe – Not Sure He’s a Match for Me
    Dear CeCe, I’ve been divorced for over 3 years and have just gone on my first date. The date was a joint “date” with a good friend, her husband and her husband’s friend. My friends told me what a great guy he is, but something about him is bugging me and I can’t figure out what it is. They say I’m just being picky. He’s nice looking and has a good job. He seemed nice enough. My friend told me he wants to ask me out for a date on our own.What should I do? Should I trust my instincts […]
  • Dear CeCe – Their Mom is Breaking All the Rules
    Dear CeCe, Before our separation, my ex and I kept the kids on a pretty good schedule. Same bedtime most nights, limited junk food. No R rated movies. If feels like she’s thrown all that out the window. There are also certain shows that I don’t let them watch, even though they are rated PG. The kids are sharing with me the new things they are allowed to do, as well as telling me their mom is telling them that my rules don’t apply at her house. I don’t think this is good for the kids. How do I talk […]
  • Dear CeCe – My Ex Isn’t Acting Like a Dad
    Dear CeCe, My ex and I split up over a year ago. He paid child support for the first 4 months and hasn’t paid any since then. The last time he was here to drop off the kids after a weekend with him, was 5 months ago. I asked him if everything was okay, and if he was having financial issues. He was very defensive and said he’d pay me when he could, drove off and hasn’t been back since. The kids call him, they talk, he doesn’t ask to talk to me. He tells them he’s very busy but […]
  • Dear CeCe – Not Ready Yet
    Dear CeCe, I’ve been dating a man for about month now – maybe 6 or 7 total dates. I like him, but I’m still getting to know him. I’ve only been single again for a few months. However, he seems to be all in and wants to meet my children. I feel like I need to be sure that I know him better and that he’s someone that will continue to be in our lives before I bring him to meet the kids. How do I tell him that I’m not ready? – Not Ready Yet Dear Not Ready Yet, […]
  • Dear CeCe – Should I Risk Feeling Humiliated
    Dear CeCe, I still live in the town I grew up in. My 20th high school reunion is coming up. I have mixed feelings about attending it. Everyone knows that I’m now separated because my husband cheated on me. I feel humiliated. I don’t want people to feel sorry for me. I’m afraid that if I don’t show up the rumor mills about why will be even worse. – Should I Risk Feeling Humiliated at the Reunion? Dear Should I Risk Feeling Humiliated, Break ups are always hard, even harder when the person you loved and trusted cheated on you. […]
  • Dear CeCe – How Do I Deal with My Ex’s Family?
    Dear CeCe, I have never been close to my ex’s family. Now that we are separated, his mom and sister are dropping by without calling. We have never been close. In the past they always talked with my ex, never with me. It’s great that they want to spend time with the kids, but they can’t just drop by and expect me to drop everything. Can they? – How Do I Deal with My Ex’s Family? Dear How do I Deal, You have found yourself in an awkward situation which must feel very uncomfortable for you. You have a right, […]
  • Dear CeCe – Afraid to be Vulnerable
    Dear CeCe, My last relationship ended over 2 years ago. I have been dating a guy for a few months now. He’s very nice, affectionate and is always trying to build me up. It’s hard for me to be vulnerable with him and open up completely. I should trust him, trust our relationship, but I’m scared. How do I get over this fear? – Afraid to be Vulnerable Dear Afraid to be Vulnerable, Please be gentle with yourself. You’ve only been dating this man for a few months. Trust takes time. As a friend told me, quit should-ing all over […]
  • Dear CeCe – Did He Ever Really Care for Me?
    Dear CeCe, My ex and I split up over 6 months ago. We were together for 5 years. I haven’t heard from him in over 4 months. In the first couple of months, I checked up on him every week. He stopped responding to me. I promised myself I wouldn’t call or text him first. Why isn’t he calling or texting me? He must not have really cared for me, even after 5 years. – Did he ever really care for me? Dear Did He Ever Really Care for Me, I can feel the hurt in your note. There could […]
  • Dear CeCe – I Still Want to See My Ex’s Daughter!
    Dear CeCe, My live-in partner and I split 3 months ago, after being together for 5 years. We had no children together, but often had his now 9-year-old daughter. We were close to each other. I would love to see her or at the least, let her know I am here if she ever needs me. Unfortunately, I broke it off with her father because we grew apart and none of my efforts to rekindle our closeness worked. He took it very badly and is not taking my calls or answering my texts. Is it unreasonable to ask to see […]
  • Dear CeCe – Should I Share My Romantic Feelings?
    Dear CeCe, I’ve been divorced for just a few months, separated for almost a year. I’ve considered myself a straight woman, always only interested in men. I think I might be attracted to a woman in my yoga class. We often get coffee after class, laugh and have fun being together. I think about her all the time, and it lights me up inside. I’ve also thought about kissing her. She let me know early on that she was a lesbian and I let her know I was straight. Now, I think I may be bisexual. She has never made […]
  • Dear CeCe – I Want a New Sports Car!
    Dear CeCe, I’m considering buying a used car. I’ve never done this before, and I know nothing about cars. I’m worried I’ll buy a lemon, or over pay. I also want a sports car, but I’m in my fifties. Am I too old for that?Signed – I Want a New Sports Car! Dear I Want a New Sports Car: Sports cars are fun, and you are never too old to own one. These cars can be very low to the ground and can make you feel like you’re doing deep knee bends getting in and out of them. If you […]
  • Dear CeCe – Dealing with a Drunk Booty Call
    Dear CeCe, My ex, who moved out on me, drunk booty called me and left a voicemail telling me he still loved me and wanted to see me. I still love him, but I think he just wanted to have sex. Luckily my best friend was with me and convinced me not to call him back immediately. Should I call him back and be honest? – Dealing with Drunk Booty Call! Dear Dealing with Drunk Booty Call, You are strong person to consider giving him another chance. Sometimes after a breakup it’s more difficult to have an open and loving […]
  • Dear CeCe – Is This a Community for Someone Like Me?
    Dear CeCe, Dear CeCe,I am 70, and after nearly 24 years of a mostly incredible marriage I am widowed. Is this a community for someone like me? Dear Is This a Community for Someone Like Me, My heart goes out to you. After so many years of sharing your life and love, I can only imagine the grief and sorrow you might be feeling. Having suffered the loss of close loved ones personally, I know there are no words that I can say that would offer any real comfort. These words from a Willie Nelson song allowed me to let […]
  • Dear CeCe – I Want My Music Back
    Dear CeCe, I finally noticed my ex took the CDs I had before we got together. These date back to long before we started dating and have special meaning to me. How do I get them back? – I Want My Music Back Dear I Want My Music Back, I feel you. Music is intensely personal. Music can change our moods and create joy. There is no one clear cut answer to this question. Even in the best circumstances you may not be able to get them back. The first step in trying is to make a list of all […]
  • Dear CeCe – Starting to Get Romantic Again
    Dear CeCe, I’ve been separated for about 5 months. We haven’t started the divorce process, not because we think we’re getting back together, but because we are waiting for our house to sell. I joined an adult volleyball rec league. It’s perfect because they play on the nights in which I don’t have my 5-year-old daughter. I’ve recently started having one on one time with one of the other participants. I’m developing romantic feelings and so is she. Is it to soon to introduce her to my daughter? – Starting to Get Romantic Again Dear Starting to Get Romantic Again […]
  • Dear CeCe – Should I Invite My Ex-Husband?
    Dear CeCe, My son is graduating the 6th grade. I want to throw a party for him. Should I invite his dad, even though we’ve been split up for 5 months? It seems like the right thing to do to focus on my son first and foremost. However, he may want to bring the woman he left me for. I would feel very awkward around her. – Should I Invite My Ex-Husband? Dear Should I Invite My Ex-Husband: I think it’s wonderful that you are thinking about what your son wants and considering his needs up front. There’s a couple […]
  • Dear CeCe – My Ex Took All the Cookware
    Dear CeCe, I came home from work yesterday and all my cookware was gone. My ex-partner told me she was going to stop by and pick up some of the items that she left that had been her grandmothers. I had no idea it was every piece of cookware. Should I try to negotiate the return of a few pieces? I really can’t afford to go out and replace all of it. Just thankful she left the coffee pot. – My Ex Took All The Cookware Dear My Ex Took All the Cookware: Not a fun situation. It sounds like […]
  • Dear CeCe – How do I Handle my Flirty Ex-husband
    Dear CeCe, I gained about 30 lbs. towards the end of my marriage and added 10 lbs. through the difficult separation process. As I’ve started to take better care of myself, working out and watching my diet, half the weight has come off and I am in significantly better shape. My ex-husband and I see each other once a week as we hand off the kids to one another. The last few weeks, he has been blatantly flirting with me and turning up the charm – just like when we met. – How do I Handle my Flirty Ex-husband? Dear […]
  • Dear CeCe – Hurt and Betrayed
    Dear CeCe, My partner and I separated 3 months ago, after 6 years of living together. We had been arguing more and more. We decided to separate, take a breather in our own space to find out if we would be happier apart, or possibly learn that we might be taking each other for granted and find our way to living happily together again. We agreed to give it 6 to 12 months. We also said that we could date others during this period.He called me last night to tell me a mutual friend had asked him out and wanted […]
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